EDGE Newsletter...February 20, 2005...Winter Edition...Breaking News...Witty Commentary...Upcoming Events...A New Rant...Gossip...World News...Politics...Facts...Fictions...Fantasy....


The Summer schedule in the NJ Academy begins Monday June 18TH. Please check the schedule so that you attend the proper class. Summer Schedule.

Don't forget about Guest Passes for friends and family to check out our programs. Please, only give guest passes to individuals that live in the area and may be interested in joining The EDGE.

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Students are now permitted to wear EDGE T-Shirts to all classes with the exception of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Gi classes. ONLY EDGE T-Shirts are permitted.

JULY 4, 2021
The NJ & PA Academy's will be closed in observance of Independance Day. Have a safe and happy holiday!

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The EDGE's Annual Kids Tournament held on May 19, 2021 was a huge success. Over 60 competitors came from both the NJ and PA Academy's as well as Mike Moran's ELITE Martial Arts in Wanaque. As usual the competition was fast and furious. Twenty one championship belts were awarded in grappling and fighting. All of the competitors, judges and spectators did a great job and everyone had a lot of fun.

Congratulations to new Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Blue Belts Rich Sabatino and Richard Vizuette from the NJ Academy and Keith Kowal from the PA Academy.

First Rule of Engagement for Parents: “No Means No”

When you say no you should mean no. Do not give in or negotiate. When you do this you are communicating mixed messages to your children by not establishing the uncompromising meaning of the word no. If you say no and truly mean it and are ready to enforce it then it should stand to reason that complaining, whining, and tantrum throwing will not change your answer. This needs to be conveyed to your child by not permitting any negative reactions to being told no. You are now establishing new rules to back-up and coincide with other rules.

Parents are aware that saying no to their child is usually an unpleasant task. It’s unpleasant because of the expected backlash of anger, disappointment, or frustration by their child. Saying no should not be a battle. Often parents will say yes when they really want to say no in order to avoid a scene or tantrum. Some parents never say no or defer to the other parent. The more a parent say’s no and doesn’t waiver, the less they will have to say it. Children, just like adults, do not like to hear the word no. But, parents...providing they are adults themselves have learned to accept disappointment graciously. So how do we teach our two to four year old children to accept disappointment without a struggle or hissyfit? By establishing ground rules and enforcing them. It’s amazing that when we say yes our children don’t ask why. Because it was what they wanted to hear. No does not need an explanation every time you use it. It speaks in volumes. It is all powerfull.

• No means no.

• If told no...whining, pleading, and tantrum throwing are not permitted. Being told no is not a punishment or an offense. It is simply a denial based on a request. Whining, pleading, and tantrum throwing after hearing the word no on the other hand is an offense and should result in some form of punishment. By not permitting any resistance to the word no you will find that your child will stop asking for things that they know they are not allowed to have and you will not become engaged in a power struggle for every disappointment.. They already know the answer will be no. They already know from past experience that arguing or whining will not do them any good but will result in some form of punishment.

Why some parents have a problem saying No

Some parents feel the need for their child’s approval. They want their child to like them as well as love them. Everyone has moments when they don’t particularly like a loved one. Conflict is natural in human beings and is usually resolved peacefully or by force. Every parent would love it if their time with their child could be conlict free but that is just unrealistic. You simply can not expect your child to like you all the time. You can not afford that type of luxury if you want to be a good parent. It is also natural to not like your child at times. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent. It means you’re human.

In my house it was understood at an early age that my father was my father and my mother was my mother and that neither of them were my friends. Adults just like children can suffer from low self esteem or a lack of confidence. Being your child’s friend may make you feel better but it is denying your child the security and safety every child looks for in their parent. They may think they want a friend in you but what they need is a parent. A guiding beacon of light that is strong and unrelenting. You are their rock. You are their island. If you feel like you have a strong need to be accepted by your child you may think about addressing your own self confidence issues and how they may be impacting your child. You may even consider getting help to feel better about yourself. It is way too much to ask of a young child to carry the weight of being your friend.

Feeling guilty for punishing your child can sometimes cause a parent to recind a punishment. Nobody likes to see their child unhappy, in pain, or disappointed. Parents know that disappointment is a part of life and that their job is to teach their children to deal with and learn to accept disappointment. Remember that you are not the cause of their disappointment, they are. They will survive the disappointment and it will make them a better person. Punishing your child when needed helps them to develop a strong moral character. It also teaches them that they are not in charge. You are.

Wanting to Keep the Times You Are Together Free from Conflict. - It is very hard for a parent who does not spend much time, for whatever reason, with their child to start being tough and causing upset. It is only natural that you want to keep those precious moments free from conflict. Non custodial parents sometimes spoil their children when it’s their weekend “on”. Working parents who arrive home near bedtime may find it hard to resist the pleas for more time and attention. Our children have a way of knowing the weak spot, and will exploit it for all it’s worth. To them it’s worth a lot. But giving in or being soft is not in their best interest.

We know that it can be a hard world out there sometimes. At some point in their lives our children are going to have to face it on their own. We meet our responsibilities as parents by properly equipping them to successfully meet and overcome the obstacles they will surely face. Don’t send your precious child out there unprepared.

My Ideas For New TV Reality Shows
by R. Raciti

1. Dancing With The Homeless
Televison and movie stars find homeless people sleeping on the street and wake them from a drunken induced slumber to dance with them. Hollywood really, really wants to help.

2. The Moore, Moore, Moore Reality Show
Mary Tyler-Moore, Roger Moore, and Michael Moore share a condemned three bedroom house in Detroit where they stay warm by burning Michael’s books. In one episode Michael hocks his academy award to buy a gun to shoot at people at the NRA gun show. He’s against guns you know.

3. Tom and Mom
As part of his civil service sentence for acting without a talent license in War of the Worlds, Tom Cruise is sentenced to 90 days as a counselor in a post partum depression clinic. He is beaten with blankies, botties, and one dirty diaper on the first day of shooting. Show is immediately cancelled.

4. Hunting with Dick Cheny
Vice President Dick Cheny takes John Kerry, Joe Lieberman, Ted Kennedy, and Joe Biden on a Quail hunting trip. In the first episode Dick Cheny points his unloaded shotgun at the group as a joke. John Kerry bolts from the group and runs...apparently going for help as he later stated. Their is no limit to his bravery. In the third installment the group crosses over an old bridge as the stream below quickly flows beneath them. Ted Kennedy stops and ponders. “You guys want to hear a funny story” he asks? “Promise you won’t tell anyone?”

5. Race to Citizenship
Twelve illegal aliens are picked to race from New York to Mexico. The first one crossing the border into Mexico wins US citizenship, health benefits, financial assistance and a scholarship to an accredited college or university. Of course they will be denied re-entry into the United States to collect their prize. The eleven losers will be deported to Canada.

6. I’m Smarter Than a Gang Banger
Adults test their knowledge against street gang members in a fun filled hour of laughs and excitemment. Do you know what a 40 is? How about the difference between a “drive-by” and a “drive-in”? You’ll laugh so hard you’ll want to bust a cap right into your TV.

7. America’s Next Rehab Star
Hosted by Courtney Love. Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Brittney Spears, Nicole Ritchie and Kate Moss compete to see which one will win an all expenses paid dream vacation to the Betty Ford Clinic. Competitions will include: Completing a full sentence, Where’s My Car?, Knowledge of Alcohol and Pain Killers, DWI ( Driving While an Idiot), Getting By Without Talent, and Leaving The Scene of an Accident. Executive producer and frequent rehab visitor himself Mel Gibson has high hopes for the show and has decreed that only Kosher food will be served on the set. He wants to make nice.

8. Bitten by The Dog
Eighteen contestants, all who have been caught by Dog The Bounty Hunter, live in a house together for six weeks as they try to clean up their lives. Hear their stories first hand and see for yourself what it feels like to sit in the back seat of Dog’s SUV while he endlessly rants on about religon, honesty, and virtue. “I honestly couldn’t wait to get out of that car and into the county jail”, one contestant stated. “He just doesn’t shut the #%@& up...and the hair is ridiculous”. The show is filmed in both Hawaii and Colorado which are the only two states that allow an ex-convict who was arrested 18 times for armed robbery and convicted of first-degree murder to work as a bounty hunter.